so why is everyone in such a big hurry to grow up? do they really realize all that comes with that? i’m a college senior right now, and it seems that all of my friends are doing everything they can to get themselves hitched or engaged before they graduate. now i could understand it if they had been dating their partner all through school and marriage is just the next logical step. but most of them have only been dating their partner for months at the most, and some only for weeks. this baffles me. are they afraid of being single and out of school? do they think they won’t be able to meet people once they graduate? i don’t get it.

what’s even worse is that it seems that this fear completely clouds all sound judgment and they do not fully think about the reprucussions of being locked in the bondage of marriage, much less discuss them with their future bride/groom. or maybe they do think about those things, but are so overcome with the emotion in getting engaged that they forget about them. and then all the planning for the wedding starts, that monopolizes time, and they still fail to sort out all of the post-wedding day stuff that they’re going to have to eventually face. things like finances, living arrangements, jobs, chores, etc. then their marriage starts, all that stuff that they didn’t think through comes crashing down on them and then they end up stressed out over something that could have totally been avoided if they weren’t in such a hurry or in such desperation for a mate before they leave their undergraduate studies.

now don’t get me wrong. i definitely want to get married and go through all of that someday. i know all that i’ve said thus far sounds quite cynical, and perhaps it is. it’s june afterall, wedding month central, and i have a good amount of weddings that i will be attending in the next year. i guess this is just a part of my own growing up. dealing with people making less than educated decisions that will not only affect their own life, but the life of another person. i guess i just wish that people would totally think through a decision before they jump into something. i mean, that’s what friends are there for, right? don’t we have friends so we can tell them what we’re planning to do and then have them walk us through every aspect of that decision? or at the very least tell us we’re nuts?

i mean i guess people can do what they want to do, and it seems that it works out most of the time. i just know that when i get ready to make that leap with that special lady, i hope i have someone there to aid me in making sure it’s the best time to do so, so that all involved will be taken care of. that is all. until next time……….